Wow! Did anyone know about this?



This was on Tuesday's Oprah.





A Very Special Oprah


Laveranues Coles is the guest on

today's Oprah. The New
York Jets wide receiver details years of sexual abuse as a child by his
former stepfather. It's a significant story, first reported by the The
New York Times last
month and well outside the norm
for sports and the NFL where players rarely expose potentially embarrassing
stories about their past. Laveranues' motivation was quite simple; the
baller says that he came forward because he doesn't want other young boys
to suffer in silence.
Highlights, more captures and some spoilers

below.


Laveranues said that his stepfather raped

him almost daily from aged 10 to 13. It affected his grades, behavior and
relationships with almost everyone in his life—and he still carries the
weight. "It's among the reasons why I am not married or have a girlfriend.
I don't know does someone want to be with me after everything that I've
been through."


He also says that the abuse made him question

his sexuality, but the most important factor being that he "wasn't
being allowed to decide" for himself. But more importantly, his words
were guarded and he chose to equate his stepfather's behavior with power
and dominance, as opposed to sexuality. "He probably would have done
the same thing to a little girl."
The abuse came to light when he was 13

years old, after the stepfather told Laveranues friends' that the boy was
gay. "I didn't understand why he was telling people this, why
he was doing these things to me and then making up stories." He got
into several fights at school, and later admitted the truth to school officials
and police officers.


Laveranues' mother, Sirreta Willaims, was

also a guest on the show. She was called to the school that day and counselors
revealed the truth. The stepfather was taken away, he served time in prison,
and mom and son shuttled from relative to relative. Laveranues says that
he forced himself to excel and athletics and his studies to re-assert control
over his life.


One interesting exchange between Oprah

and the mother was on the couple's sex life, and it went just a little
left field. Oprah asked in rapid-fire: "So you and your husband were
having sex? Was he being satisfied? So you had no reason to think he would
go elsewhere?" Obviously, she was trying to establish that the husband
appeared "normal", but that interaction could have been phrased
better. But we understand where she was trying to go; its a testament to
O's strength that people are comfortable with her and will answer those
questions. No questions were asked about the ball player's sex life.
The baller says that until now, he and

his mom have never spoken about the abuse. It's not that she didn't
care; Ms. Williams says that she believed that she had utterly failed her
son and could not help him heal. That's fairly common in abuse situations
to try to bury the past; a psychiatrist was on hand to walk them through
their emotions and promised follow-up. Their story was so touching, you
almost wanted to reach through the television and give him a big hug.

Wow !!!!!

Thanks "Dr. Dido!"

SOunds like Laveranues is on the road to recovery and hopefully can become intimate with someone. most important is he won't repeat it either as can often be the case.

His mother should be given time for naming her kid that!

yeah,,,,that is very sad man. Those of you who are parents need to be careful with your kids.

Posted by diderotn:

yeah,,,,that is very sad man. Those of you who are parents need to be careful with your kids.

YOu pompus Mother Phucher!

Read you own sheet dude, its a crime of control! Not Sexual.

Usually passed down from one father to another!

Now Uncle Dido is telling us fathers to keep our dicks from our Sons? Usually your inane comments are laughable.

You took something decent and turned it into the the "dido springer" show. Priceless!