Posted by misterearl:

Nalod - the line about calling someone "well-spoken" cuts deep.

An insult, even when it is veiled, is still an insult.

You know Mister, we all got culture issues. Even Nalod.

All I know is we come her to talk. Black, Asian, white, Euro and Indian all getting along. Most of the time.

Nit picking until you want a confession is insulting itself.

Maybe we have really evolved that this dumb ass contributer had no idea that "well spoken" was a racial insult. The work "well" and "Spoken" by themselves really does not give me any hint.

even after my explaination you insist such a term "cuts deep".

Does intent matter? I understand there are phrases that are taught that one might confuse with a cultural norm and thru nativity use them? But could "well spoken", while I can see being a softer version of saying "house", could it also be applied to "jocks"? And you not being so anal about disecting every single phrase? Could giving a guy who comes to this forum on a friendly basis to talk hoops and other social issues be given the benefit of the doubt once in a while?

To me cutting remarks (when I am faced with them) are those that are done with intent.