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Rich
Posts: 27410 Alba Posts: 6 Joined: 12/30/2003 Member: #511 USA |
Is this thread for real?
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rvhoss
Posts: 24943 Alba Posts: 0 Joined: 11/2/2004 Member: #777 Switzerland |
you should not yell at your children.
all kool aid all the time.
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rvhoss
Posts: 24943 Alba Posts: 0 Joined: 11/2/2004 Member: #777 Switzerland |
elaboration:
http://www.actagainstviolence.com/specialtopics/yelling.html While occasional yelling is common in American families, parents who constantly yell at their children are subjecting their children to emotional abuse that researchers say can be as harmful as physical abuse. A 2001 study in the American Journal of Psychiatry involving 49 people with depersonalization disorder (a mental disorder in which a person has a feeling of detachment or estrangement from one’s self) and 26 emotionally healthy people, found that yelling and other forms of emotional abuse was a more significant predictor of mental illness than sexual and physical abuse. Good to see you guys agree, hopefully you both learn and evolve and don't use yelling as a form of discipline. But then again, you do tend to gang up on posters you disagree with, so maybe your children are doomed. all kool aid all the time.
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Bippity10
Posts: 13999 Alba Posts: 0 Joined: 1/26/2004 Member: #574 |
Posted by rvhoss: Fantastic people that don't know me, never met me, have never been to my house analyzing my parenting skills. No wonder you guys get so upset and near to tears whenever LB did something. You guys think you actually know him :). I've been a father for 18 months now. To this date I have not raised a voice to anyone that is not associated with my basketball team(they definitely get yelled at). As a matter of fact I am known for being a wise ass that never gets angry and is sarcastic and witty to a fault. My biggest fault is cracking a joke in situations when jokes really aren't advisable(if you read my posts you would know this by now). My father is the same way. I've told many a story of my father when we posted on MSG. You guys unfortunately missed it so I guess that's why you are guessing as to what type of guy I really am. My father is hilarious. The Bips are hilarious. We are all loud, obnoxious and the life of the party. My father, mother and brother all came from the hood and are all happy to be out. Life is good for the Bips. Nice to meet you and welcome to my family. As for my basketball players. They get yelled at a lot. I have no patience and don't apologize for it. I yell when I'm angry. I yell even when I'm not angry. I demand, demand and demand. If a player isn't playing hard he does not play until he can prove that he is willing to play hard. If you do anything outside of the team concept even if you are 100% sure I'm wrong, you will sit. Explain it to me afterwards. Bitch to my face afterwards. I have no problem with this. But if you don't play hard you don't play. When my son is on my team he will get the same treatment. When parents first here of me they say I'm an ogre. When I invite them to practice to see me coach they realize why I do the things I do and they love me. My teams are known for being the hardest working teams in the state. I've taken talented teams and won. And horrible teams and lost. But we've never once taken a minute off on the court. Why? Because I demand it. Players hate me when they play for me. They despise me. Some may want to kill me. I could care less. But when they graduate(actually happens when they are seniors) they figure it out. They all come back during the summers and winters and thank me. Seven years later and my first team still shows up to my games and they didn't even go to my current school. Discipline is not a bad thing. Demanding effort is not a bad thing. Accepting poor effort is. So if you guys want to get to know me, feel free to ask me mature questions or just read my posts. My opinions on the Knicks efforts can be directly traced to my coaching and not my parenting skills. It's insulting but I will let it slide because that's the way you treat your basketball players/coaches. If you don't agree with them, everything they do must be bad. That just appears to be your approach to the world and I accept it(I'm of course guessing because I don't know you). As for your "study". Mental abuse is a little different than "yelling at your child". But it was a nice sophmoric attempt at proving a point. I just hope that people will like me
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