Well, no, she is already involved in a relationship. I just want to get her in bed again. She has called me for the last two months without seeing me but she keeps saying she isn't looking for a "cut friend."

My thoughts are -- if she calls then she must want something

Interesting-when did you start to get in contact again?! I think in a way Solace is right, but it will definately depend on her character and the kind of relationship you two had in the beginning.
Funny story though!!!

That she needs a daddy for her kid! ;-)
No but actually its always a difficult thing to mess with the ex...
I personally dont like it, as it will more often than not lead to heated discussions with somebody you already cut once in your life.
Its just not worth the trouble!!!

Posted by Marv:

tell her you're too mad swamped at work for lunch but could meet her afterward for drinks. that way you'll find more out about what she's really looking for and you'll maximize the chances of getting what you're looking for.

A good idea, see what shes all about, a lot of times these girls will try to use their exs to boost their egos. Give her a night and after that I wouldny waste my time

Let A playa , give you some advice young one.

#1 FREEZE HER OUT ! Women can't stand a guy who plays hard to get, when she needs some emotional or physical stimulation.

When she talks to you on the phone again and asks why why you're freezing her out, tell her That you have emotional and physical needs to.

Now before she answers , tell her somebody is at your door and that you have to go AND HANG UP.

So when the next time you talk to her tell her how these other women aren't what you are looking for and keep belittling the other women you see.

Make her feel your emotional pain and anguish involving other women so that you both have something in common to discuss and understand.

This is how you get her in bed eventually , by making madd love to her MIND!


Be patient and she will feel compelled to give you all she has emotionally and Physically.

ASK A PLAYA 1-800 DIAL- PLA


[Edited by - playa2 on 23-06-2007 21:33]

Okay, update, you remember me telling you that I never answered her calls? Well, she didn't call me yesterday at all which is shocking. But maybe she is using the reverse role that playa spoke on, on me!

I think she's going to call sometime 2day and I am going to explain to her that the reason I didn't answer is because I had emotional and physical needs that needed to be met friday night.

I'm trusting in you playa.

Are you sure that I can get her in bed? Even though she claims she isn't looking to get close to anyone. I am almost certain she is sleeping with someone though. She likes to stay on the phone with me at night while she sleeps (I guess thats her way of proving herself to me) but there was this one time where it sounded like she was having sex (I heard her making sounds through my speakerphone) but she claimed that she must do that in her sleep.

we shall see

Posted by bigpimpin:

Okay, update, you remember me telling you that I never answered her calls? Well, she didn't call me yesterday at all which is shocking. But maybe she is using the reverse role that playa spoke on, on me!

I think she's going to call sometime 2day and I am going to explain to her that the reason I didn't answer is because I had emotional and physical needs that needed to be met friday night.

I'm trusting in you playa.

Are you sure that I can get her in bed? Even though she claims she isn't looking to get close to anyone. I am almost certain she is sleeping with someone though. She likes to stay on the phone with me at night while she sleeps (I guess thats her way of proving herself to me) but there was this one time where it sounded like she was having sex (I heard her making sounds through my speakerphone) but she claimed that she must do that in her sleep.

#1 this advice is for a Playa not some love sic puppy.

This thing about her sounding like she was having sex and you stayed on the phone with her tells me she knows you like the back of her hand.

I don't know if you can succeed with Playa's Tecnique without being da man in charge.

she is probably calling you because she is scared maybe. She is comfortable with you since you guys have a history with one another.